As the best man, you’ll have a lot of important wedding-related jobs. Your biggest job is obviously to make sure that the groom makes it to the altar. But your second biggest job is to throw the best stag party ever.
The pressure to plan an epic event can be overwhelming, especially if you’re not really a planner. You might be wondering if you’re up to the task or where to even start.
Don’t worry. We’ve got you covered. Read for tips on how to plan the most epic stag party since The Hangover.
Tip #1: Think About What Your Friend’s Personality and What He Likes
When people, especially guys, think about a stag party the first thing that usually comes to mind is debauchery. Bars, clubs, shots shots shots, strip clubs, and lots of ladies. If your best friend is a party animal and loves that kind of scene then it makes sense to plan a party that involves that kind of debauchery.
But if your best friend is the quiet, nerdy type or a serious introvert, then a party with that much debauchery may make him absolutely miserable.
So, the first thing you should do when you start planning your friend’s stag party is to think about his personality and the things he likes to do. Not the things you like to do. Not the things his other bros love to do. What he likes to do.
Even if you think his idea of a good time is boring, it’s your duty to plan a party that he will enjoy. It is his party after all.
Once you’ve thought about the type of party he might like, be open to non-traditional stag party ideas. If he’s super into arcade games you could go to a barricade. If he’s really into outdoor activities you could plan a weekend-long camping adventure with an agenda full of hiking, kayaking, and the like.
The point is that the best stag party you can throw is the one that fits who your best friend, not the party you think you should throw based on traditional ideas of a stag party.
Tip #2: Start Planning Early
Unless your stag party is just going out to the local club or bar, then it’s going to require some serious advance planning to pull off. Often, friends will be traveling from all over to attend the stag party. This means you’ll need to know the venue and the location of all activities relatively early so everyone can book travel and lodging for the weekend.
If you’re all staying in one place together like at a resort or casino or campground, then you’ll be in charge of contacting the lodging to make sure they can accommodate everyone and that they reserve rooms/sites for people to book. You should arrange all of this at least a few months before the event to ensure that everyone has a place to stay and no one gets left out.
You’ll also be in charge of booking services and entertainment for the event, which typically needs to happen a few months in advance. So get those tee times lined up, make sure a contract for that “private entertainment” is signed, make sure that the private room at that restaurant is all booked well in advance so nothing falls through the weekend of the event.
Don’t make the mistake of thinking that you can just pull together this party a few weeks or a few days before the event unless you’re planning something really low-key.
Tip #3: Don’t Try to Do it All Alone
Just because you’re the best man doesn’t mean that you need to plan the stag party completely by yourself. Yes, you’ll be the point person for the event planning, but it’s more than okay to ask for help planning and executing this epic event.
The first people you should ask for help are the other groomsmen. By committing to being in the wedding party they’re also committing to help out with wedding stuff whenever they can, which totally includes helping plan the stag party.
Run your stag party ideas by all the groomsmen to see what they think. Have them help you come up with a list of all the things you need to do in advance. Once you have that list together, dole out tasks so that each groomsman has something to do.
Utilizing the other groomsmen will take some pressure off you. It will also ensure that nothing falls through the cracks.
Tip #4: Know Your Limits
The pressure to pull off an epic stag party is a lot. It’s important to know yourself, your planning capabilities, and to have a realistic idea of how much time you’ll have to pull this off.
If you’re committed to doing something huge for your friend’s stag party but you know you won’t have the time or skills to pull it off, then maybe it’s time to turn to the experts. You can hire a party planner, or even better, someone who specializes in planning and pulling off epic stag parties.
Didn’t know that was a thing? It totally is. Check out this article by DesignaVenture that’s all about what a stag do organizer does and why you might want to use one.
Remember, it’s not a personal failing to turn over the planning of your friend’s stag party to a professional. It’s about throwing the best party ever and if that’s outside your capabilities that’s fine. Better to let a professional nail it than to have the party be an epic fail.
Successfully Planning That Epic Stag Party
Your number one priority is to make sure that your best friend has an awesome time at their stag party. Achieving that goal can be very simple or very elaborate.
Know that whatever you do plan, the company is always more important than the event anyway. So, focus on planning a night or a weekend that centers on doing things he enjoys with the people he likes to chill with – you and your bros.
If you’re looking for some ideas of things to do during an epic stag party, check out the Get Inspired section of our site.